It’s an age old question…literally. Remember that guy named William Shakespeare? I swear I think he started it all with his to be or not to be. Choosing whether or not to see your bride or groom before your wedding ceremony is a personal decision each couple must make for themselves. There are many reasons to support either option and no one reason is right or wrong, just your own! So never let anyone make you feel different! It’s all about what is most important to you and whether or not you like to stick to tradition.
If you’re absolutely distraught over what to do for your big day, I’ve come up with some benefits to consider for each choice, so take some time and think it over!
TO SEE BEFORE THE WEDDING
- You have a chance to get out all of the nervousness (kind of).
- You have some alone time to enjoy each other before all of the guests see.
- You allow yourself some extra time for some very special pictures.
TO NOT SEE BEFORE THE WEDDING
- It’s a tradition in for most people, and a fun one at that!
- He makes that “oh my gosh, I get to marry her” face when you walk down the isle.
- It allows all of your friends and family to share in that special first moment.
These are just a few ideas to think about before making the big decision on your own. Of course there are always multiple sides to the story and various feelings involved. Just remember to do what’s best for you and your husband-to-be! If that means setting aside some private time for some lovey-dovey, kissy-kissy stuff before the wedding, then do it! If it means completely and utterly blowing him away when he sees you down the isle for the first time, then do that!
Like I said, no one way is right or wrong! Pick your preference and make it happen! Also, be sure to have a great wedding planner on hand to help ensure the choice you make actually happens the way you want!
Happy wedding day planning! Cheers!
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Another photographic advantage of the couple seeing each other before the wedding is that they can take formal pictures earlier in the day and then spend more time later on going around town with the wedding party for fun pictures. When the couple decides they won’t see each other first, the schedule gets tighter from a photography perspective; they generally lose the option of taking many creative posed pictures all about town.
I think the first-look is such a great tradition. It allows the bride and groom to have a really special moment will still having the practicality of allowing for more photo time! Plus, hopefully you can then make your ceremony and reception closer together and not force your guests to find something to do during a long gap!