Wedding Date Saying No to and GuestPlanning a wedding is not easy. Planning a wedding when you’re at risk for potentially hurting the feelings of your guests is even harder! While developing the dreaded guest list, many brides and grooms have to make the decision about whether or not to include a +1, better known as the “& guest.” Normally, this is decision based on budget, however, the bride and groom also have every right to just say no to inviting plus ones to their wedding that they really don’t know.